Are we shaped or defined by our experience?

Are we shaped or defined by our experience?

Why is it that some people choose to be defined by their negative experience and some choose to rise above it and learn from it and move on? Why do I say ‘choose’?  Simply, it is a choice. The difficult part is in achieving it. Some people seem to be able to just...
Be in the here and now

Be in the here and now

  In my last blog I talked about using your surroundings to ground you in the present and to notice the reality of where you are – in an attempt to manage fear and anxiety.  We can also use our mind to alleviate anxiety and lack of confidence by being aware...
Look Around You

Look Around You

  When we lack confidence or are fearful, we can become ‘ungrounded’ and ‘in our head’ dealing with the negative emotions and trying to work out a situation mentally.  One of the ways we can ‘ground ourselves’ to lessen the anxiety is to breathe as discussed...
Lots of things happen when we don’t breathe…

Lots of things happen when we don’t breathe…

  Lots of things happen when we don’t breathe … and none of them is good. Some people will be aware of holding their breath when stressed or fearful but generally, they don’t think of the negative impact of not breathing.  Many people are completely...
Fear or Excitement

Fear or Excitement

Believe it or not, anxiety is a normal aspect of everyday life.  In this video I show you how anxiety is the mental state that gets you to an appointment on time and enables you to remember all the things you have to do. It’s a state which keeps you alert and able to...